Curious about the general consensus on this.

If a "straight" (male or female,) person participates in a sexual act with the same sex, does that or does that not change their sexuality? I can see maybe (to a point), to where a female, or even a male engages in sex with same sex and declares it to be a one-time thing fulfilling partner's fantasy, or experimentation and doesn't enjoy for whatever reason. In my mind, if you experimented then that is bi-curious. The person experimenting had (with little doubt at all) bound to had thoughts of the situation producing the stirring urges to get over that inhibition.
When I hear guys say, " I'm not gay/bi, but I want to suck a dick", or any same sex act, I'm thinking, dude you're at least bi-curious, if not bisexual, and if you have experienced sex with the same gender, then w/o doubt you're bisexual, no matter your denial of it. This is the definition of same gender sex. You can't think of what it feels like to touch or being touched by a the same gender on a daily basis or every time you see them and not be bi curious or bi sexual.

What's your opinion?

 

I'm very much a realist when it comes to calling things what they are. I don't play silly word games in an attempt to tap dance around people's feelings, nor do I play the "no labels" game and pretend that all sex is exactly the same with no differentiation. I speak simply and clearly, and try to define my terms accurately so we all understand each other.

If you are truly attracted to both sexes, then you are bi. Even if you don't choose to engage in the act, you're still bi, just non-practicing. If you are only attracted to the opposite sex, you're straight. If you are only attracted to the same sex, you're gay. Now, psychology plays a big part in sexual attraction, and curiosities can develop, so there has to be some leeway given in that scenario. So, if someone tries it, hates it, and decides to never do it again, they just affirm that it was only a curiosity.

I always say, don’t overthink it, and don't be afraid of using an accurate label. It is what it is. The more we can be honest about who we are and what we want, the freer we will be.

 

I'm not bi,but my girl is.She will not let another guy join us,but lately I've been interested in fucking a shemale....what are your thought on this?

 

Nina: I'm not sexually attracted to other women but I've engage in sexual acts with them when men want to watch two women together.
I've never initiated sex with another woman when there weren't men involved.
I can see another woman as attractive or sexy but not be interested in having sex with her.
It's not something I hate doing but if it never happened again, I wouldn't miss it.
Does the "act" make me bi-sexual? I guess technically so but I don't consider myself as such.
It's "roleplaying" as far as I'm concerned.
If I dressed up in a harem outfit and did the dance of the seven veils for my husband and some friends, in the privacy of our (or someone else's) home, would that make me a stripper?
At the end of the day, I don't give a damn what it makes me in your mind. I know who I am.

 

Since a Shemale is recognized as a sex that would make you bi curious until you complete the act , and after you are involved you will become bi sexual.

 

Generally when someone says they aren't gay but will still play with someone of the same sex, they meant they aren't romantically gay. While most people don't, some people separate sex from romance. Romantically, they would never be in a relationship with a guy. One night stand? That's a whole different story.

Bojack Horseman also brought up the opposite: people who are asexual but still interested in romance/companionship.

 

A person's sexuality is what they say it is. THEY know their sexuality, not you.

A person's actions do not dictate their sexuality. Trying to put categories and stipulations on X action means Y sexuality is going to lead you astray.

Humans are complex and rarely act the exact way you (a person who is not them) thinks they should act.

 

Here's a question why every time I do some white a get fixated on three and four somes that always makes me think about licking pussy while she's ride'n on a lap spread wide and me wanting to bury my tongue in her licking her and licking him hoping to have him pull out and shove it in my mouth .or wanting to be use by a couple like a fuck toy really not into ass play but fucking a girl while she watches her man make me swallow hisdick gets me so fuckin hot

 

Well said @dark_secrets , and thank you for your "straight down the pipe" assessment of my question.

 

Labels don’t really matter that much as far as I’m concerned but I’d say if a man wants to suck a cock for instance, by definition I’d say that’s bi curious. Let’s just say he follows through with it. Tried It, Doesn’t like it. I’d say he’s longer bi curious for sure & probably not gay either. Just followed through on his curiosity & no longer has an interest.

 

How I will be guided by passion, and most importantly, reciprocity. This will be the reaction of my brain and body. And labeling is the lot of the insecure. Hiding their insecurities under labels. They seem to be looking for an excuse for themselves under labels. And in our time of wild tolerance, this is very easy to do. What can not be said about if it was 70-50 years ago.

 

The OP's question has been asked several times before, tough in different contexts. One that I remember more than others is whether or not sex workers (prostitutes and porn actors) who perform same-sex sexual acts for money, but do not in their personal lives, are bisexual. The consensus was no, they are not. They are heterosexual. I have not seen the following as a question here, but logic would dictate that a person who performs opposite-sex sexual acts for money, but not in his or her personal life, is still homosexual.

It seems that the motive for engaging in a sex act influences the label that some choose to apply to the person in question. I don't know if that practice makes any sense. (I am reminded of the phrase 'Gay for the stay.' that is used to describe incarcerated individuals who engage in same-sex sex while in prison but not outside of prison.)

 

I use the label BI though I am not romantically attracted to men, it's purely sexual. I am actually a pretty accomplished cocksucker and I love a cock stuffed in my ass. I have done both with just me and the guy but it's 100x better when a chick is watching or participating.

 

On the contrary. Respectfully, it seems more like we're running away from calling things what they are, that we're afraid to admit that we're bi, gay, or whatever. I think it's a cop out to act as if all sex is identical. I'm bi, and I've had sex with both males and females. Set aside the physical act, it's different. The attraction is different. Often, the roles are different.

If I freely admit that I'm bi, it means I've accepted the reality of what I want. I own my sexuality, because I'm not trying to hide the fact that I like being with guys. When I was young and just starting to figure all this out, I had real trouble admitting to myself that I was bi. Once I was able to do that, however, I stopped feeling guilty and ashamed that I let other guys do what they did, and I was able to openly pursue what I wanted.

 

I have been confused about sexual behavior that is purely, or mostly, physical versus "sexual behavior" that is purely, or mostly, romantic/emotional. I have met both men and women, who are physically strictly heterosexual. But I perceive their emotions to be 'homosexual'. By this I mean that these persons seemed show those emotions that I associate with romantic love to persons of the same sex, not the opposite sex. This description can get long but I will try to shorten it to the essence.

For me, trust is the foundation upon which romantic love grows. The growth and development of romantic love requires a lowering of the protective barriers against emotional hurt and pain. A person only lowers those barriers to another person, and thereby makes oneself emotionally vulnerable to him or her, when he or she trusts that other person will not abuse that emotional vulnerability.

The majority of persons who displayed this "emotional homosexuality" did not trust the opposite sex. They almost always explicitly said so. A huge "What The Fuck????" moment for me was when I learned that a fellow student from my college days had become engaged. Her friends, both male and female, were surprised she had been able to persuade a man to marry her. (We were graduate students and worked as tutors for undergrads. We were all in our early to mid 20's.) One of her male friends remarked that she had finally found a man she trusts. She replied no. She did NOT trust her soon-to-be husband. WTF????? A number of her male friends made predictions as to the length of the marriage. None predicted more than one year.

But these persons do trust the same sex. They make themselves emotionally vulnerable to same-sex persons. I can only speculate that same-sex romantic love starts to develop with these persons despite their being physically heterosexual. I don't know how a traditional relationship survives.

I long ago stopped trying to figure out why a particular woman didn't trust me and stopped trying to make myself more trustworthy to her. If, after getting to know me, a woman still doesn't find me sufficiently trustworthy, for whatever reason, I move on. I do not have the time or energy to make myself trustworthy in the eyes of such women and then build romantic love. They put up far too many hoops to jump through that are far too high.

I am still very confused about this type of 'divergence' of physical and romantic attraction, but life is simply too short for me to figure it out. I no longer allow it into my life.

 

If you suck a doggy gay if you do a woman and suck a cock are bisexuals

 

Woman my first love but i like sucking and getting a pounding so i think i am bi

 

Me too